Consultation for Intended parents of Donated Gametes
Building your family with sperm or egg donation
Embarking on a path that includes donor conception, through sperm or egg, can bring a complex mix of emotions.
Hope, grief, relief, and uncertainty. Whether you are:
A single mother by choice
Part of the LGBTQIA+ community
Or a heterosexual couple navigating the many decisions surrounding third-party reproduction, you don’t have to walk this journey alone.
These sessions are designed to provide space for reflection, emotional support, and make decisions about moving forward with your family building.
Together, we’ll clarify your intentions and strengthen the foundation for a healthy, child-centered family beginning.
What to Expect
Intended Parent Psychoeducational Consultations meet the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) guidelines for pre-treatment requirement when using donated gametes. These meetings explore the psychological, ethical, and relational aspects of working with sperm of/and egg donors, helping you move forward with both confidence and clarity.
In our work together, we’ll discuss topics such as:
How you and your partner (if applicable) have come to this decision
Understanding the emotional and genetic layers of donor conception
Exploring feelings about attachment, identity, and family formation
Considerations in choosing a donor
Differences in sperm and egg bank practices
Planning for future disclosure conversations with your child
Navigating contact or communication with known donors or donor siblings
Clarifying expectations, roles, and boundaries in donor or recipient relationships
Each consultation is individualized to your situation and provides documentation of completion for your fertility clinic.
Every family journey is unique, and so is every emotional landscape that comes with it.
Some clients come to this process after years of fertility treatments, disappointments, or difficult decisions. Others arrive by choice from the very beginning, drawn to the beauty and possibility of donor conception.
Each path brings its own set of questions, emotions, and hopes. It can feel both exciting and tender, full of dreams for the child you will welcome, and perhaps grief for the path you imagined before this one.
Wherever you find yourself, your path is deeply personal and deserves to be met with care and understanding.
My goal is to create a space that is inclusive, non-judgmental, and grounded in compassion, where your story is met with warmth, respect, and genuine curiosity.
In our work together, we’ll explore not only the logistics of your next steps but also the emotional and relational dimensions of this journey: how to hold hope and uncertainty side by side, how to strengthen your partnerships and support networks, and how to move toward parenthood feeling centered and empowered.
I have extensive experience supporting individuals and couples navigating fertility challenges, third-party reproduction, and evolving family structures. You can expect a collaborative process that honors your values, your pace, and your definition of family.
The consultation process is more than a formality, it’s a meaningful pause in the midst of planning, a chance to reflect on where you’ve been and where you’re heading.
While these sessions do fulfill clinic and ASRM requirements, they also invite space for deeper emotional readiness. Together, we’ll explore both the practical aspects of the donor process and the personal layers; the grief, hope, identity, and connection that accompany this path to parenthood.
Many clients leave the consultation feeling lighter and more grounded, with a renewed sense of clarity and confidence in their decisions. It’s a time to slow down, make sense of the emotional journey, and feel assured that you’re moving forward from a place of intention and strength.
If you’re considering donor conception, or your fertility clinic has referred you for an ASRM-required consultation, I welcome you to reach out.
Together, we can ensure this next step is taken with openness, integrity, and support.
You deserve peace, clarity, and hope in your family building journey.
FAQs About Intended Parent Consults
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Intended Parent Psychoeducational Consultations are $395. You can expect a 60–90-minute consultation and a completed report within 1-2 week after our consultations.
I am bilingual. I speak Spanish and English fluently and can provide mental health services in both languages.
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Health insurance companies usually do not cover an Intended Psychoeducational Consultation. I will always provide you with a superbill for your completed consultation. You are welcome to submit this superbill to your insurance carrier for reimbursement consideration. Some individuals are successful in obtaining reimbursement when they have infertility care coverage in their health plan.
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All Intended parent consultations are currently online. I can only complete consultations when you are physically in California.
This consultation will be completed via a secure online video platform. This platform will be HIPAA compliant to protect your privacy. You will need a private space to speak freely and a good internet connection.
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First, you will schedule a free 10–15-minute consultation, no obligation to see if this consultation meets the requirements of your infertility clinic.
I can only complete intended parent consultation who are considering egg or sperm donation.
Currently, I do not complete embryo donation consultations nor gestational carrier assessments.
Next, we will review the documents needed such as your informed consent, HIPAA notice, and financial agreement.
Finally, we will schedule a 60–90-minute consultation where we will discuss fertility history, explore your feelings about using egg or sperm donation, discuss how and when to talk to your future child about their origin, and clarify roles, boundaries, and desired relationship with donors.
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You can take your time making this decision and reach out when you are ready.